Friday, April 19, 2019

Who Are You? Who, Who.. Who, Who... sings (me!) sandra, tvgp

if I had the means... I would post a selfie video dancing and singing to The Who's famous song..  Who are you..


yes, I've written on the topic of identity so will try not to repeat..    just having so much fun, listening to my dad..   highly active on an ancestry website..  learning all kinds of things about our family history, and also..   he sent some spit in the mail...  and we are learning a number of startling new things via those reports too..

like..   I've been able to lightheartedly joke for years now..   "of course i'm mostly irish.. I love beer and write poetry.."

but, according to the reports my dad has received...  72% Scottish

and I have no lighthearted joke up my tartan sleeve about being Scottish...     what is the stereotype for Scottish people?  do they have something synonymous with the four leaf clover?   Scottish blessings like 'may the wind be at your back'     -cute little sayings?    a signature beverage...

mostly, I am very excited about the tartan!  just like its fun to wear Warriors Spirit Wear, and all the spirit wear for the schools/colleges my children attend...     the very second I have a tartan pattern to claim...  /no fact checking necessary

i'll get the skirt, the scarf, the kilt, the flag, the potholders, the matching towels...

mainly I was excited to share this information with my co-worker, and former Good Neighbors Holiday Boutique vendor, and very Scottish friend Ruth...   "you are like my next of kin!"    -who would have guessed...

And now my brother is in on it...    he's getting his own set of dna reports... and, we are learning more  /questionably factual   information...     and apparently, on my mom's side...   French?

like…  remember I told you, I already knew that...    because I love to kiss with my tongue..

anyway...    "are you going to do it?"    my sister asked me recently... and I have zero interest personally.  

i'm still waiting for when science figures out how to take some pee, blood or spit and determine what % of the population can swim, sketch, build, throw, catch, sing, write, paint, ski, run, etc.

and, how we can determine whether someone is  -really-   atheist, Christian, or agnostic...  muslim, Buddhist, jewish, etc.

and, what % manifests the fruit of the spirit, like love, peace, patience..

i'm much more interested in who people are   -write now-  in this very moment...   how do you treat other people?   how long does it take for you to forgive a wrong?   how easy for someone to steal your peace?  … character...  ethics... integrity...    dreams, goals, …    

what makes you who you are  -today.  write now.   I see people from all around the world seem to be much more shaped in personality, character and disposition based on current cultural influences, current political and social climates..       and less directly influential, but of great personal interest:   where your ancestors were from...  what % indian you might be...

and as ive written before...   everyone is under the influence of somethings/someones..

and I found my quality of life the very best, under the influence of Jesus..


the CH here is to my census poem...   i'm more fascinated with gifts, talents, instincts..     how can we see a map or graph or that pie chart, % data?    aren't there people who can sing in every culture? nation?   every blood type...    and people who can not...

the favorite thing I have learned about my paternal grandpa...   grandpa Harrison, who was orphaned at a very young age, and served in the navy for 25+ years..     my favorite thing I learned was not the result of a blood test...   it was what I saw written about his character and work ethic...  

made me a very proud granddaughter indeed.

and, as I have mentioned before also..    and can only laugh..  on my mom's side.. she has said, "honey, there is only hillbillies, drunks and robbers.."      and I don't know that the dna test would shed any light on the who, when and why's where that is concerned...    

current culture/environment/influences...

and I restate my..i want to close this post by restating that I fully, completely,  -believe..   I was born with an instinct to write; and even more specifically; non-fiction..    and I believe there is not YET a test that can show..   but one day there will be.    -one day, we will get to see more of what is already inside us when we are born...

and inside every human...   seeds for love, peace, patience, joy, kindness, goodness, gentleness and self control...

and, turn to different section...   already mentioned, I skim past dozens of CH'S on any given day..  but for the most part, I am highly aware of what my thoughts are..    why I have the thoughts I do, when to disregard certain thoughts, and proactively select new ones..

but every once in a while, I will have a thought..  and be at such a loss for why or where a given thought came from..

my most recent example...

how it popped in my mind?  what triggered...    

but, I was thinking about the donner party...   the stories of cannibalism...   and what brought that to mind I can't be sure,

but, it was followed by a series of pictures of starving people all around the world... you've seen them too...   on commericals, documentaries, church shows...      bringing food to starving people..

and they will talk about how very, very, little they have to eat, if even one meal a day...   and very high mortality rates...

and, yet...

never mention of cannibalism?


and then I carried on with the rest of my day....

in Jesus loves the little children..   ALL the children of the world's  name..  amen!

Sunday, April 14, 2019

speaking of pot and luck.. (me!) sandra, tvgp

for  -ever-  the words potluck ='d dread for (me!)

but, !

after my sexy showed me how to make bacon wrapped jalapeno poppers..

and pop those in the oven @350 or 400 for 45 minutes or so..

write away I told him  "THIS!" is what i'm bringing to the next potluck

and I can't wait!


after I tasted two of these.. ..

okay, three..

and by the forth one, I was like, 

"really baby, I can't wait.   I mean, i'm not even going to wait until the next pot luck, 
i'm bringing them tomorrow"

which was yesterday..

and they were a hit.


and I am so grateful, "thank you sexy!"

Saturday, April 13, 2019

wildflowers romantic picnic for (sexy! & tops!) almaden quicksilver county park

Tuesday, April 09, 2019

..this is what i know about the praying mantis.. (me!) sandra, tvgp

a customer at alden lane placed two items on the counter to purchase in front of me

one cute little carton of ladybugs
and one cute little carton of praying mantis

customer:  "what do you know about praying mantis?"

and I said with a smile, 

I said, 

"I know, that the female!  ..the female praying mantis wants to be
the first, the last and the only!  that's what I know..

and so, in order to insure..     after she mates..  she decapitates the male; eats his head write off -

I think it's the coolest thing ever..  in bug world"

and, the customer looked partly confused and partly amused, 

customer:   "what I mean is..  I know you release the ladybugs on roses, but what plants do you release the praying mantis on?"

(me!):  "oh.  I have no idea... for the answer to that question you'll have to step write over there to the info desk inside the garden store..        and, let me know what you find out.."


In Jesus -all creatures were created-  name..    amen.

Swallwell for President... i saw this coming.. (me!) sandra, tvgp

but I certainly did not see him running this soon... in my imagination, it would have been more in the 2030's


I remember cutting out newspaper clippings and sharing them with my daughter..     he is a local, from Dublin, ca, a neighbor to the city of Pleasanton..


I read more about him...     glimpses here and there...


wrote to him once..


and I don't take a newspaper, or follow the news,

and it is just  -amazing-  how even if you don't read a daily newspaper or watch the news..

how still!   so much information slips through the cracks and forces it upon you anyway..

I have successfully built a pretty strong filter..

but yes,  I would see a picture of swallwell here, read a paragraph or two over there..


part of it, was just the amount of media coverage itself...

I thought to myself...   he is being groomed for the presidency one day..

he is being positioned...

looks like the trajectory of ….

and sure enough, I heard the official announcement via the Stephen Colbert show this very morning.


now, everything I read, I liked...

but you know what is sad...     i'll never get to see him on the Charlie rose show.

the Charlie Rose show represents my only exposure to Elizabeth Warren also..

and I like a lot of what she had to say too.


perhaps they could run as a team...


but, at 53, myself..   with how many presidents/campaigns in my life experience now?  i'm not going to count..

I can just say, with great certainty..

I already know the talking points...    

nothing new will be said; but it will be said by a new person, in a new way..

and even with the greatest, noblest of intentions..    /if such a thing exists..

the size of the job

to fix America's mostly F's & D's report card...

it is much greater than any one leader, no matter how great..

it is going to take much longer than 4 or 8 years...


I have no interest in the song and dance show coming up..

but pray, with my whole heart..

...I mean, Jesus...  if we could even just navigate  -toward-   the write direction...

because the amount of time and energy to actually be moving in it...


for ...  yes, could we at least...   wouldn't it be wonderful if!....    someone please...   if the rudder moves even one inch!   you know the analogies and clichés...

change the course of America!    -because I don't like the direction we are headed, or the rapid pace we are heading there...


in Jesus' is the way, the truth, the life's name...   amen.

I am educating myself on the topic.. (me!) sandra, tvgp

The people of the State of California do enact as follows:


 This act shall be known and may be cited as the Gender Recognition Act.

SEC. 2.

 The Legislature finds and declares all of the following:
(a) It is the policy of the State of California that every person deserves full legal recognition and equal treatment under the law and to ensure that intersex, transgender, and nonbinary people have state-issued identification documents that provide full legal recognition of their accurate gender identity.
(b) Gender identification is fundamentally personal, and the state should endeavor to provide options on state-issued identification documents that recognize a person’s accurate gender identification. It is the intent of the Legislature in enacting this legislation to provide three equally recognized gender options on state-issued identification documents—female, male, and nonbinary—and an efficient and fair process for people to amend their gender designation on state-issued identification documents so that state-issued identification documents legally recognize a person’s accurate gender identification.
(c) “Intersex” is an umbrella term used to describe natural bodily variations, which can include external genitalia, internal sex organs, chromosomes, or hormonal differences that transcend typical ideas of male and female. Upper estimates of the number of intersex people are approximately 1.7 percent of the general population. In the United States, some children born with intersex traits have been subjected to involuntary and medically unnecessary surgical procedures in infancy in an attempt to erase aspects of their natural bodies, causing significant physical and psychological harm. Human rights authorities have condemned this practice as a form of torture and recognize that legal and ethical frameworks require intersex people themselves to make decisions concerning their own bodies. Thus, those human rights authorities recommended that physicians assign a provisional gender designation with the knowledge that the child may later identify differently. An option of a nonbinary gender designation on state-issued identification documents would allow intersex people, like transgender and nonbinary people, to be able to use state-issued identification documents that accurately recognize their gender identification as female, male, or nonbinary.
(d) The binary gender designations of female and male fail to adequately represent the diversity of human experience. Nonbinary is an umbrella term for people with gender identities that fall somewhere outside of the traditional conceptions of strictly either female or male. People with nonbinary gender identities may or may not identify as transgender, may or may not have been born with intersex traits, may or may not use gender-neutral pronouns, and may or may not use more specific terms to describe their genders, such as agender, genderqueer, gender fluid, Two Spirit, bigender, pangender, gender nonconforming, or gender variant. Nonbinary gender identities have been recognized by cultures throughout history and around the world, as well as by legal systems in the United States and other countries, medical authorities, and researchers. Studies show that nonbinary people face frequent discrimination, harassment, and violence in areas of life including education, employment, health care, and law enforcement.
(e) Transgender is an umbrella term used to describe people whose gender identity or gender expression do not match the gender they were assigned at birth. Some transgender people have medically transitioned, undergoing gender affirming surgeries and hormonal treatments, while other transgender people do not choose any form of medical transition. There is no uniform set of procedures that are sought by transgender people that pursue medical transition. Transgender people may identify as female, male, or nonbinary, may or may not have been born with intersex traits, may or may not use gender-neutral pronouns, and may or may not use more specific terms to describe their genders, such as agender, genderqueer, gender fluid, Two Spirit, bigender, pangender, gender nonconforming, or gender variant. Studies show that transgender people disproportionately face discrimination, harassment, and violence in areas of life including housing, education, employment, health care, and law enforcement.

SEC. 3.

 Section 1277 of the Code of Civil Procedure is amended to read:
 (a) (1) If a proceeding for a change of name is commenced by the filing of a petition, except as provided in subdivisions (b), (c), and (e), the court shall thereupon make an order reciting the filing of the petition, the name of the person by whom it is filed, and the name proposed. The order shall direct all persons interested in the matter to appear before the court at a time and place specified, which shall be not less than 6 weeks nor more than 12 weeks from the time of making the order, unless the court orders a different time, to show cause why the application for change of name should not be granted. The order shall direct all persons interested in the matter to make known any objection that they may have to the granting of the petition for change of name by filing a written objection, which includes the reasons for the objection, with the court at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and by appearing in court at the hearing to show cause why the petition for change of name should not be granted. The order shall state that, if no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing. If the petition seeks to conform the petitioner’s name to the petitioner’s gender identity and no objection is timely filed, the court shall grant the petition without a hearing.
(2) A copy of the order to show cause shall be published pursuant to Section 6064 of the Government Code in a newspaper of general circulation to be designated in the order published in the county. If a newspaper of general circulation is not published in the county, a copy of the order to show cause shall be posted by the clerk of the court in three of the most public places in the county in which the court is located, for a like period. Proof shall be made to the satisfaction of the court of this publication or posting at the time of the hearing of the application.
(3) Four weekly publications shall be sufficient publication of the order to show cause. If the order is published in a daily newspaper, publication once a week for four successive weeks shall be sufficient.
(4) If a petition has been filed for a minor by a parent and the other parent, if living, does not join in consenting thereto, the petitioner shall cause, not less than 30 days before the hearing, to be served notice of the time and place of the hearing or a copy of the order to show cause on the other parent pursuant to Section 413.10, 414.10, 415.10, or 415.40. If notice of the hearing cannot reasonably be accomplished pursuant to Section 415.10 or 415.40, the court may order that notice be given in a manner that the court determines is reasonably calculated to give actual notice to the nonconsenting parent. In that case, if the court determines that notice by publication is reasonably calculated to give actual notice to the nonconsenting parent, the court may determine that publication of the order to show cause pursuant to this subdivision is sufficient notice to the nonconsenting parent.
(5) If the petition for a change of name is sought in order to conform the petitioner’s name to the petitioner’s gender identity, the action for a change of name is exempt from the requirement for publication of the order to show cause under this subdivision.
(b) (1) If the petition for a change of name alleges a reason or circumstance described in paragraph (2), and the petitioner has established that the petitioner is an active participant in the address confidentiality program created pursuant to Chapter 3.1 (commencing with Section 6205) of Division 7 of Title 1 of the Government Code, and that the name the petitioner is seeking to acquire is on file with the Secretary of State, the action for a change of name is exempt from the requirement for publication of the order to show cause under subdivision (a), and the petition and the order of the court shall, in lieu of reciting the proposed name, indicate that the proposed name is confidential and is on file with the Secretary of State pursuant to the provisions of the address confidentiality program.
(2) The procedure described in paragraph (1) applies to petitions alleging any of the following reasons or circumstances:
(A) To avoid domestic violence, as defined in Section 6211 of the Family Code.
(B) To avoid stalking, as defined in Section 646.9 of the Penal Code.
(C) The petitioner is, or is filing on behalf of, a victim of sexual assault, as defined in Section 1036.2 of the Evidence Code.
(3) For any petition under this subdivision, the current legal name of the petitioner shall be kept confidential by the court and shall not be published or posted in the court’s calendars, indexes, or register of actions, as required by Article 7 (commencing with Section 69840) of Chapter 5 of Title 8 of the Government Code, or by any means or in any public forum, including a hardcopy or an electronic copy, or any other type of public media or display.
(4) Notwithstanding paragraph (3), the court may, at the request of the petitioner, issue an order reciting the name of the petitioner at the time of the filing of the petition and the new legal name of the petitioner as a result of the court’s granting of the petition.
(5) A petitioner may request that the court file the petition and any other papers associated with the proceeding under seal. The court may consider the request at the same time as the petition for name change, and may grant the request in any case in which the court finds that all of the following factors apply:
(A) There exists an overriding interest that overcomes the right of public access to the record.
(B) The overriding interest supports sealing the record.
(C) A substantial probability exists that the overriding interest will be prejudiced if the record is not sealed.
(D) The proposed order to seal the records is narrowly tailored.
(E) No less restrictive means exist to achieve the overriding interest.
(c) A proceeding for a change of name for a witness participating in the state Witness Relocation and Assistance Program established by Title 7.5 (commencing with Section 14020) of Part 4 of the Penal Code who has been approved for the change of name by the program is exempt from the requirement for publication of the order to show cause under subdivision (a).
(d) If an application for change of name is brought as part of an action under the Uniform Parentage Act (Part 3 (commencing with Section 7600) of Division 12 of the Family Code), whether as part of a petition or cross-complaint or as a separate order to show cause in a pending action thereunder, service of the application shall be made upon all other parties to the action in a like manner as prescribed for the service of a summons, as set forth in Article 3 (commencing with Section 415.10) of Chapter 4 of Title 5 of Part 2. Upon the setting of a hearing on the issue, notice of the hearing shall be given to all parties in the action in a like manner and within the time limits prescribed generally for the type of hearing (whether trial or order to show cause) at which the issue of the change of name is to be decided.
(e) If a guardian files a petition to change the name of the guardian’s minor ward pursuant to Section 1276:
(1) The guardian shall provide notice of the hearing to any living parent of the minor by personal service at least 30 days before the hearing.
(2) If either or both parents are deceased or cannot be located, the guardian shall cause, not less than 30 days before the hearing, to be served a notice of the time and place of the hearing or a copy of the order to show cause on the child’s grandparents, if living, pursuant to Section 413.10, 414.10, 415.10, or 415.40.
(f) This section shall become operative on July 1, 2014, shall become inoperative on September 1, 2018, and shall be repealed on January 1, 2019.

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Friday, April 05, 2019

Which Industry Creates the Most Jobs? asked/answered by (me!) sandra, tvgp

I had my little scrap of paper and a pen,

"there are no write or wrong answers... im just asking... it's not work related, i'm just doing a thing for a future blog post.. k

    just say the first thing that comes to your mind...

what industry creates the most jobs?"

and, these are a few of the answers I received:


health care

food industry








all good, solid answers..


and, if there was an industry that combined a few or a couple on the list...

that would equal even more jobs,   -write..


but I know the industry that ALL of those industries on the list ALL NEED..


so, if there is ONE INDUSTRY they all need!   that's a lot of jobs!  write...

guess what it is yet?




every single one of the industries on the list, that creates jobs, needs security of one sort or another, some low key, some high level..

locks, keys, alarms, security guards, cameras, passcodes...

you cannot name one job-creating company, business, or industry which does not require some level of security.



it is CRIMINALS who are responsible for creating the most jobs on the entire planet.

I used to think it was construction/building...

and then,

when my sexy and I were watching breaking bad..

it dawned on me, in an even greater way..

the amount of movies, books, tv shows, theater, songs..    tours, documentaries..

based on, or inspired by a LIFE OF CRIME...

so, not only, in the real every day world, are criminals responsible for creating the most jobs,

but, in the entertainment industry!!

I just let my mind wander sometimes...  

when they are making a movie about a criminal or crimes...   how many jobs that creates?  and then, the studios themselves need a certain level of security..

its mind-blowing...

if anyone can ever really put a number, and quantify the number of jobs criminals create...   military, police forces..

and what would happen if we had no more criminals...  it would be the greatest unemployment crisis in the history of ever

pales in comparison to losing farming to manufacturing to technology

they've so consistently contributed, no matter what the major era is...

how many people put butter on the table, raise children, retire from careers thank you to criminals..

/just giving credit where credit is due..

In Jesus uses all things for good, name...     amen.

Glimpse of America's Report Card as shared by (me!) sandra, tvgp

Fresh Beginnings photo by (me!) sandra, tvgp

on the topic of gender non-conformity by (me!) sandra, tvgp

I will not tip toe.


but I have no idea where to begin?   -but WHEN did this begin?

-there is something very different going on...   

different under currents, 

and they are suspicious


my exposure was at the   -awesome!   all stars were out..   44 assists!   phenomenal, wonderful, Warrior Game at Oracle..   my birthday present from my sexy..

and during one of the intermissions..  on the big screen..
what appeared to me

based on 53 years plus of life experience here on earth..

as a beautiful young girl, 

who was, working with young children, in some capacity  -teacher? mentor? coach?

as she introduced herself, 

she included in her introduction, to the population at large, 

"I am gender non-conforming".


I could tell..

or at least my immediate read and interpretation/projection of her tone..

 this is something very different from not wanting to identify or get stuck in culturally practiced gender ROLES...

but rather, 

not wanting to identify with the GENDER itself.

huge distinction!


writers/scribes will understand:

I received this analogy and wrote it down

I jumping around, yes, I realize..
but there is quite a bit to..

and, so, 


it is a spiritual practice:

seek first to understand; then be understood.



dear gender non-conformists, 

if you are evolved enough to put that spiritual principle into practice, 

I have an exercise of the imagination for you
that will help you understand..

before you insist on being suddenly, utterly being understood

imagine this please:


when you wake up, and go to school or work, or anywhere

pretend in your imagination

that every time you
see a red light

that means "go!"

every time you see a green light

that means "stop."

and your entire society has been sent a letter explaining the new definition for each color

and now

 live according to this new information.


it is very analogous for me personally, 

for my entire 53+ year life

these have been,  -and still are, 

visual icons

one = human born with penis
the other =  human born with vagina

/and nothing to do with sexual attraction/orientation...  personal character/personality, education, or anything else

visual icons which mean male or female


for the entirety of my 53+ year life

red = stop
green = go


when everyone is agreement, with mutual understanding

this helps us avoid a lot of accidents 


it's not a NATURAL LAW
that red ='s stop

it is a human-implemented definition/understanding..

in truth, 

if anyone wanted to change it, 

so that GREEN now means STOP

and RED now means GO..

just so long as everyone is in on it..




really who cares which color means which instruction...   write.

we've done much of this for convenience..  to help; not to hurt


if you did want to implement the change

just for the sake of it..

how long would it take for people to adapt to the change?

my goodness..

I have to change my password every 2 or 3 months..


after I do, 

I still put my old/former password in several times before I remember...

and then, 3 times in a row, i'll use my new password successfully, 

then backtrack, and accidentally put the old one in again..


when a new year begins..

I mean, 

I can't think of any person, who wrote 2019 every single time beginning Jan 1st...

most people -out of habit-  write 2018, for a few weeks, until..

and that habit only last one year!

for icons/definitions/ways of being that have been practiced for decades and centuries and millenniums...

so, first understand, all of you who suddenly don't want to be referred to as a he or a she..

first understand, all of you who don't want to conform to long agreed upon/practiced ways of addressing people:

it is equivalent to waking up and starting now:

red means go.


there is an under-current of what is going on, that isn't sitting write in my soul...

some of this is quite recycled..

new vocabulary; dressed as if it's new..

but it is not new


what age was I?   prior to having children of my own..  and, 

uproar! about how unnecessary and restrictive and oppressive it was

pink for girls and blue for boys!

outrageous and oppressive..

and, I did, visit with my mind, all the arguments why or why not..


when I did have children of my own, 

and I gave birth, to a GIRL, and to a BOY;
that is to say, 

my daughter had a vagina, and my son had a penis..

and in their toddler/pre-school years they enjoyed pink and blue

I let them.

I let her favorite color be pink..  when she said her favorite color was pink
and she, very much on her own, expanded her color pallet as she grew...

and my son,  -with blue.

it is a who cares thing to me..  but people love to create upset/drama
over very inconsequential things.

my son, 

the second born,  and younger, 

exactly because he had an older sister, had very direct exposure to 'girl' things..

some things he enjoyed, others held no interest..

and vice versa

my daughter had very direct exposure to 'boy things'

and some things interested her also; and many did not..

I just let them be who they were...

and watched/observed...   loved, nurtured, cared, shared...


I would caution new parents to do the same

let your children, not the media, not whats trending, not these people so easily offended and upset over nothingness, not the academics, or experts, or scientists..

let your children show you who they are; and honor that.

-it seems to me, we are in some strange cultural climate
that doesn't want to allow a girl to be a girl, or boy to be a boy


and while we may have a much wider spectrum in humanity at large

within that spectrum

there are still boys

and there are still girls.

don't forget.


and, the other big upset during my youth..

the use Mr and Mrs...

outrageous!   discriminatory!

it's nobody's business if you are married or not..   that is your personal business only

and we have the addition of Ms.


I don't have enough energy for the long list... 

but much of what appears to be going on write now..

just recycled


sexual revolution...  sexual freedoms..

just recycled


I am interested in how people introduce themselves these days..

what they put as the most important, 

because, when we introduce ourselves, we only use a few words, sentences..

what do you lead with?

if I wanted to join in on what people are saying is the most important part of my introduction today, 

I might say, 

My name is Sandra.. I am a white,  female-conforming, heterosexual..


when did that become the lead?

I've always regarded who I am, not as what color, or sexual orientation, or gender

but rather, 

a proud mom, an artist, a writer...

I would vote for people to reconsider how they introduce themselves..

not because it's wrong..   what color and sexual orientation.. etc. ,

but rather, 

because it's not that important really.

if the young beautiful human on the big screen
would have introduced herself as a teacher, coach, mentor
and said what name to call her


why all this proactively leading with...

when if you just say your name, 


perhaps, I will experiment with that..

"Hi. My name is Sandra, 

I am a white, female-conforming, heterosexual...

 and what are you?"


I have no issue with color, sexual orientation..   whatever...

and i'm schooled on gender ROLES

and thank the people who helped us identify the roles placed on..

and we have in fact, expanded those gender ROLES impressively!

men are helping raise their children, 
women are working and financially contributing to the household

it's much more of a team-work environment..

the jobs available to women today!  vs..  in my youth

outrageously impressive!


and, so it just seems strange..

all this hard work, 

blood, sweat and tears, and marches and rallies, 

and court hearings, 


to help women

and now, 

but their teaching women not to identify as women ..


that's where im currently at in my acclimation

I totally understand not conforming to gender ROLES

and have no understanding of not wanting to conform to gender itself.

I currently think its a mis-communication, vocabulary issue

and my analogy here is roses..

like, I see every working day, 

100's of roses..

and the spectrum of color, 
spectrum of fragrance, or lack thereof, 
spectrum of varieties, 
hybrids, floribunda, 
climbers, carpet, patio tree, 
pedal counts and shapes can be entirely different..

there are many, many different types, flavors, if you will..  

and if, 

one of the roses could speak, and said, 

I am rose non-conforming, 

I would be like, 

do whatever you want, conform, don't conform, 
like it, don't like it, behave, don't behave, agree or argue..   
'feel' like an asparagus, hang out with the bamboo..
change your name if you want to

but, the bottom line my friend, is that you are a rose.

it is just a convenient name, given to a living entity that identifies certain characteristics in common.  nothing more; nothing less

and the habit of humans who do name/ label things
seems to be, 

in a very loose, non academic, way...   

it seems to be, 

we start out, with one big name that captures a large population


and then, 

we find distinguishing characteristics

men, women, boys, girls, adults, children, seniors, 

optimists, pessimists, 

introverts, extroverts, 


we find subgroups, 

and based on that new knowledge, we create new names

it's all for convenience

so we have heterosexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals, try-sexuals..

i'm sure there is a longer list..

and we have females, males, transgenders, 

and -gender non-forming-   ?

i'm going to go look up what that says...

bare with me..

red means go.


based on my very brief, and admittedly belated reading/research..

it really is the exact same thing

it is, 

not conforming to gender ROLES.

so, I got all upset/confused about nothing really...  have you ever done that?  jump the gun

it IS a vocabulary thing..

had she said, I am gender-role non-forming...

that makes perfect sense.


but!   we still have this other thing circulating..

the not wanting to be referred to as a he or she..       I remember squidmann blogging about this a long time ago..  it is also recycled...  don't use he or she...

and we are back to 

mostly its been for convenience

when I say, he, it's because the person I am discussing has a penis; that's it.

it does not mean, hetero, or homo-sexual..  "he" to me does not include who they sleep with, or whether or not they are feminine in appearance..   or personally identify as anything else..

and when I say "she"   -its because the person im referencing has a vagina..

penis; vagina

green light; red light..

if you all the sudden wanted to call humans with vaginas men
and humans with penises women..

doesn't really matter

we are all just looking for a common and convenient way to communicate


another thing that is not at all new

and is totally recycled

is the fact, 

that there also seems to be, always, originating where?

but someone(s) who thrive on manipulating it, so that it is even harder to communicate.

talking on egg shells..

In, Jesus walks in love,'s name... amen.


I think here of the passage that teaches us, 

-it teaches us about not conforming.

but it teaches us about not conforming to this world, these times..

Romans 12

2Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.