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Wednesday, April 23, 2025
i find myself fascinating... i really do (me!) sandra, topps, writeousmom
like, if i have an itch.. that is a very specific, experiential sensation -i can directly identify -where- and, if within reach, i can immediately scratch it; -sometimes, if i can't reach it myself, i grab a back scratcher.. i love those things!
k, i have to use 'itches/scratches' to make my next point..
there were two recent occasions when, -I felt NOTHING- i had zero specific, zero experiential sensation of any kind whatsoever
but, out of nowhere... my hand reaches for my face, my index finger goes directly to a chin hair. ouch.
a tiny, singular pointy, pokey, ugly chin hair..
and honey, i will practically run to the bathroom, grab my tweezers and the magnifying mirror and remove that black beast fast as i can! they are like tiny metal wire; a needle practically
anyway.. itches i know about and feel.. but in the case of these random, occasional ugly black chin hairs.. i never feel them growing out of my skin..
so, i'm like, "thanks" -to, my hand/brain? for letting me know...
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and same, with a ... what does this look like to you? i asked my sexy husband..
because, again.. I FELT NOTHING (no sensation like an itch.. nothing), but my hand, and my index finger, independently, (if you will) went write to a -small bump- of some sort on my lower back..
does this look like a mole, or a pimple..? what is this?
and, again, i was like, "thanks" -hand/brain.. for letting me know this is there..
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and, lastly for my i find myself fascinating post, is this..
my eye drops were falling off my nightstand..
i so quickly dove toward.. caught the container just before it hit the ground.. felt impressive! and the bottle is small, plastic, no harm should it even hit the ground; no big deal at all..
but without one day of practice; without any prior notice; without the consequence of glass breaking..
this instinct.. this under one second instinct that lead me to respond instantly to the eye drops falling..
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so, as we enter the world of AI, of humanoids.. as it has always been for me personally
it all ups my appreciation and fascination with being human; the masterpiece each human being is..
i'm going soon, my husband and i, to order a cocktail from a humanoid; it will be our first time having that experience..
but i'm always tossing it all around.. that robot.. will never have an itch; will never have a mole, a pimple, a chin hair.. will never have to use the restroom.. will never be embarrassed.. will never enjoy food, drink, dessert, warmth of the sun, beauty of color... falling in love...
always tossing around... man makes robots; but man did not make man; or earth; or sky; or water; or land or fire... or trees or flowers.. or gravity... on and on...
instinctively i compare/contrast... contrast/compare... sentient beings...
one thing i've noticed about myself..
a similar experience: movies/robots
-sometimes, and scary movies provide the best example.. scary or sad..
but, i'll be watching a movie.. and the actors/story is so good; i'm so engaged.. i will find myself saying to myself (and sometimes out loud) this is only a movie... this is only a movie
-it calms any fears the movie makers aim for the audience to experience -or in the case of a sad film, this is just a movie, can prevent me from crying; this understanding that it is -not real- just a movie..
and with robots, humanoids.. a similar thing happens.. they are so -human-like- in mannerisms, speech, etc. i have had to remind myself... this is only a robot... only a robot..
it requires.. they require; both movies and robots.. they require me to remind myself what they are..
and what they are not.
*****
hallelujah & amen
Easter, Eggs, Algebra & Gratitude by (me!) sandra, topps, writeousmom
Wednesday, April 16, 2025
Return to the scene of great times! 1st bike ride of 2025 -the micks #mondo


#themicks #favoritebikerides
Sunday, April 13, 2025
Berryessa Blue Zone Driveway Happy Hour April 2025 #vellumdays
"Thank You Again!" Awesome Neighbor Friends..
Wednesday, April 09, 2025
Friday, April 04, 2025
WHAT'S BLOOD, got to do, got to do with it... by (me!) sandra, topps, writeousmom
that's the song playing in my mind, tina turner's, what's love got to do with it, but i need to change and play with the words to make my point
my promise
my promise is this: when it comes to true love: TIME -quality time together; getting to know each other is far drastically more important a factor; than blood; biological connections themselves, do not result in love.
we live in a time when great emphasis is placed on -blood; dna.. our ancestry
i repeat here, when it comes to my day to day life, my decision-making, my behaviors, my relationships.. on and on. -being a CHRISTIAN is far, far, far more important and relevant than any 'dna' report results sharing about ancestors i never have and never will meet; living in times severely different from today in places i'll never visit.
but i bring this up for a different reason. my motivation is a conversation i had some time ago with our daughter in law; mother of our 3rd grandson..
we are a blended family -they are family through marriage not blood
and i was holding, loving on our youngest grandson.. staring into his eyes.. falling deeper in love..
when our daughter in law commented.. [something like, not verbatim]; bet you'll love it even more when your daughter and son have babies..
did she say 'even more?' maybe yes, maybe no, but my immediate (and admittedly potentially incorrect interpretation) was that she was making a distinction between loving a biological grandbaby vs a through marriage grandbaby
my immediate internal reaction was.. defensive..
another promise i can make write here and now: i could not love and adore all 3 of our grandchildren more than i do.. i am crazy in love with each one!
do i love this precious grandchild from God i'm holding in my arms.. less than i will one day love my future biological grandchildren from God
this is a very clear and very easy no.
but not without an important distinction; not without a caveat..
i have known my son, via marriage, only 8 years.. but we have spent a lot of time together.. living together for a bit.. traveling together; long road trip together... deep conversations and many of them..
i have known my daughter in law, his wife, only 6 years (?).. and we have spent -some- wonderful time together.. weeks at time,
i love them both! and now i love all three of them! son, daughter, grandson.. no blood relations needed or required
the reason IT WILL BE DIFFERENT when my own, biological adult children, gift us with grandchildren is because..
i have know them -deeply known them- and crazy loved them from inside my womb! the relationships are long and deep.. from skinned knees & first days of school (pre-school, elementary, middle, high, college..) -every dentist appointment, birthday party, Christmas, broken heart, best friend, -favorite shows, what makes them laugh, cry, scare, brave.. the list is too long, but you get the idea.. years and years worth of time together...
this TIME TOGETHER usurps any and all other factors, like dna, when it comes to true love.
so, while my LOVE, will not be greater with biological grandchildren.. i have no doubt, it will be different; enormously rewarding: getting to see my babies, have babies.. when my parents graduate to great grandparents..
what i share here has been proven out time and time and time again.. just sharing this common knowledge in my own words, based on my own life; adding to the choir of love songs
LOVE DOES NOT REQUIRE, is not at all dependent on a biological/blood connection.
it is most definitely not: the more blood you share, the more love you feel..
it is most definitely:
a great pleasure, rewarding honor getting to know and fall in love with each other; which is directly and inextricably dependent on time.
wait.
in no time at all! i fell in love with our grandsons..
3 seconds tops! love at first sight!
i crazy loved you from the very start!
if it's not reliant on time? nor dependent on blood..
could it be... love's a natural spring from our hearts?
what's blood, got to do, got to do with it.. what's blood but a flesh consideration..
In i-spend-a-lot-of-time-with-Jesus, name.. God IS love.
hallelujah & amen.
Thursday, April 03, 2025
the point being... #vellumdays
vellum days are not exclusively attached to vacation days; those are included. vellum days are finding a thoughtful surprise welcome home gift; family dinners; romantic dinner for two; crazy good left over lasagna & italian sausage for breakfast; a little league game, delighting in the flowers and trees in bloom; "we made it to spring!" - 'the heart seen' in the ricotta; listening to great music while spring cleaning the house, snuggling on the couch and watching a great movie/series... some vellum days present themselves quite naturally, but we create them too; with intention and purpose..
p.s.'s
* taco, cat, goat, cheese, pizza.. "thank you!" here to my bmf, carla for the recommendation; big hit with the grandkids! and "thank you!" here also to youtube.. watched as a family, how to play, before getting started..
* speaking of "thank you's" and youtube..
* also, snuggled on the couch, and binge-watched this:
and book shelves and visual platforms are all pretty saturated, in my experience and opinion, with apocalyptic theme stories, but.. WOW from both my husband and i on this hulu original. so engaging! well cast, well told, well paced.. look forward to season II "thank you!" here to solomon, AKA, FIL [Father In Law] for the recommendation.
this is the day the Lord has made..
we have re-joyced! and are glad in it...
hallelujah & amen.
Tuesday, April 01, 2025
potty talk table of 4 (robert! sandra! jack! n taryn!) #magicofmacys
