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Nightclub Disclaimer -by (me!) sandra, tvgp

let me start by sayin' I'm not even sure that's the write word..  it sounds write: disclaimer.   but anyway..

dear perfectly handsome, nice to talk to and dance with person I met last week at barones.

may I spare you the guessing game:

casual and/or recreational sex:     no.      you will get none from (me!).     if that is your desire..   there are plenty of other women in that same market..

my dad always said, 1 women out of every 10, will say yes..  

and we could all clearly see the behavior of the two women who appeared to be auditioning for a soft porn movie on the sidewalk outside the club after it closed..

but,

my point:

God does not give as the world gives.   and God gave (me!) a most rare.. ultra rare! one of a kind, wonderful human being and dance partner who

never hits on me; never acts inappropriately.  never makes me feel obligated.  is married; respects his vows.   but loves to dance as much as I do; maybe more..

a platonic friend dance partner who allows me to have a great time, without ever having to negotiate the meat-market aspect of the nightclub scene

and as a result..   I get to focus on the awesome bands, the live music, the beautiful outdoor environment, the dancing!   the friends..

and it is the happiest, most fun and awesome night of the week for me, may - October.

now,


am I not the luckiest, most blessed single woman~mom in the whole world?    to have a male dance partner friend who loves to dance, never makes me feel obligated..     just have a great time, and go our separate ways

and this spares me from having to mislead anyone, or provide disclaimer

and spares him from having false expectations projected on him by any other women he asks to dance..    and spares his wife from any concern that another woman is undermining her..

it is my definition of a miracle; huge blessing!  HUGE!

and, so..  but usually Motown leaves early,

and there was mary & I, still dancin' up a storm..   closed the place down, and just before it did close a gentleman came and danced with me..

handsome.  great dancer.

and then we all went to the bar inside, after the outdoor closed, and band left..

and talked..

for a bit.

and, he inquired if I would be back this Thursday.. as in  -tonight.

and mary explained to him, Motown was married..

and, she was explaining the dynamics..

but now,

lets say he is there again tonight, and our conversation picks up where it left off..

at what point?

like, how..

honest to God, should I just have it put on the back of my t-shirt:

not in the market for casual/recreational sex.

-because there is an awful lot of guessing...   potential mixed messages...

wrong projecting, false hope..    expectation.


   -see, the very second a different male..    who I do not know...

and who does not know (me!),

so,

it always serves to remind me..   just how blessed..

you are my miracle Motown!   in a nightclub world full of...  

we get to be in it, without being of it.

we get to

   ~just dance.


hallelujah!  & amen!


***

on this same topic..

rick cahall surprise visited me recently, and took me out to dinner..

I know him well enough to say it playfully, but straight up:

   "this dinner doesn't buy you any...  no sex."

and I told him, he'll probably go down in my own personal history books as the last person I ever had sex with..

and,

he tried to talk about how..

how, when you get older, things change..    and he told a couple funny stories about senior citizens and sex..

and I just smiled and laughed, but I thought to myself..

the answer is still the same:  no


check back at 61..   no.

but wonderful to see you!   "thank you!"    


and I did explain how I learned that about myself..

how I learned casual sex is never worth the aftermath for me personally..

I cant just hop in and out, with other people who just hop in and out...

and now that I apply what I learned..  -about myself  /quite apparently doesn't apply to everyone.

I am a much happier, much more at peace, healthier, more confident and creatively productive human being.


"Thank You!" Jesus..     amen

posted by SHE @ 11:14 AM