EXTERNAL MEMORY STORAGE CONT. by (me!) sandra, tvgp
his masterpiece delivered! in praise of older women by stephen vizinczey. i'm returning it to the library today. -fascinating to read something which i know was quite scandalous in it's time (earliest copyright 1965), and is so tame by today's standards. i used to think the pendulum - conservative to anything goes, would swing back and forth.. back and forth... but, i'm sad to report, it just keeps swinging forth... and i wish it would go back. i can't quite acclimate to today's standards (or lack thereof) when it comes to sex, and mass media. i feel sad for my children... having to navigate through all this... seems such a miracle when i meet young people who seem to be figuring it all out, despite the bombardment of mixed messages... God bless 'em. -and thank you, because you give me hope.***
obviously outside of my normal genre... but i'm 100 pages into the first patient, by michael palmer. -can't put it down! it was left behind at the hotel... thank you!
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i am outside of myself proud of my daughter and her boyfriend today. let's see if i can make this brief: they were both voted into the top 10 for homecoming queen and king at their highschool... from 10 it would go to top 3. -i never participated in any such thing, so know very little about how this works... apparently, you don't get voted on as "a couple" (but you appear that way at the event...) -one of the two of you, can win, and then someone entirely different... so potential here for one person's boyfriend to end up winning along side someone else's girlfriend.. or vice versa... or 1/2 of a couple with a single person of the opposite gender... in any case.. my daughter and her boyfriend agreed in advance, they would win together or not at all. -this to prevent awkward and unnessary feelings if say, he won, and so did his ex-girlfriend... which became a possibility. he was the first to tell me, "i wont accept unless she wins too.." -that's a good young man! but! turns out, they called my daughter in.. she made the top 3... she asked if her boyfriend made the list too... apparently this cannot be revealed. you either say yes (not knowing).. or no as an individual but you can't say yes, then change your mind. and you can't say no, and then join back in... -this seems incredibly awful and manipulative and unneccersary to me.. really. it's just a title. you get nothing... but, and so.. my daughter.. sacrificed the joy that comes with making the top 3... and with some frustration.. still demonstrated such maturity, wisdom and solidarity by opting out. "good for you! my love! i am so proud!" if you can know that at this young age, ... put it into practice now,... how much more important relationships, friendships, love, people are than fleeting titles...
and so i shared them one of my favorite solidarity stories... about the kid on the basketball team who had cancer and lost all his hair.. and how all his teammates shaved their heads so he wouldn't have to feel so awkward... and at ages where vanity is so important.. they made their love for him more important than how they felt about how they looked... these are the people i admire in the world.
anyway..
proud of my daughter's boyfriend too... let me tell you.. they put the pressure on the kids these days.. you can't just ask a girl, or your girlfriend, to the homecoming dance... you must be very creative.. they've started putting as much pressure on asking her to the dance, as you see put on men to propose for marriage.
well, i have mixed feelings, because i resent the pressure, but i am so proud of his creative, fun idea... he coordinated with teachers, student friends, to take the stage after sophmore homecoming skits at the fairgrounds. had two dozen roses in one hand, the microphone in the other... surprised her by calling her up from the audience to the stage... asked her write there! in front of everyone.. -and i got to watch a few seconds of it thank you to today's fancy phones with video recording devices.. how she walked up on stage.. gave him a hug... /accidentally knocked his basecall cap off... which embarrassed her to no end.. but said, "yes" -and all the kids cheered. -well done! great memories!
and so now, you can go enjoy the dance as your amazing selves! king and queen in my book... /in my blog! for sure..
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