Dear Nancy Giles, from (me!) sandra lynn harrison kay
in response to your opinion piece aired on cbs sunday morning
let me say first, i understand your perspective comes from that of an adult black female.
and understand you have experienced racism.
my true life experiences just don't fit the current narrative, and i'm struggling to share
the current narrative in media, viewed in its extreme:
all blacks are innocent
all cops are brutal and racist
and,
anyone who does not proactively post an all black lives matter sign,
or take a knee when its demanded is racist.
i will not take a knee.
i will not post a sign.
i am not racist.
i am in the company everyday of noble law enforcement officers
and i myself, was ambushed, kidnapped at gunpoint, covered up and raped
by a black male, wearing a hoodie, when i was 17 years old
and weighed maybe 110 lbs.
i am 54 years old now, as i write this.
i saw the predator for under one second before i had the gun to my temple
and this black male predator wearing a hoodie, named by media after several kidnappings and rapes
in the city of San Leandro, California
as the Lakeside Serial Rapist
-he was only seen by several of his victims for under one second
his picture was sketched by police
based on the testimonies of all of us victims
none of us ever meeting each other, or knowing each others names
and the composite drawing of this serial rapist
was posted around the east bay in California
black male, wearing a hoodie.
he ambushed, kidnapped at gunpoint and raped -9 victims (?)
and my understanding is that a 10th victim was not just raped but murdered before the pattern broke
and this black male predator remained at large
did many women hold their purses closer
and cross the street if they saw a black male approaching during this crime wave
you bet they did!
justifiably so.
***
i was labeled victim #2
victim #1, she committed suicide in the aftermath
no one knows her name
you would not know my name without me sharing this and putting it write here:
sandra lynn harrison kay
the names of the other victims have never been shared publicly
or with me,
the nature of the hideous crime, kidnapping/rape
makes it so, based on respect and privacy for the victim(s)
this information is not shared.
and
may i share here Nancy Giles, that i know your name
i am familiar with the name Trayvon Martin
George Flloyd
the string of names belonging to black males
but until this, you did not know my name
white girl, 17 years old,
#2
ambushed, kidnapped at gunpoint, covered up, raped
by black male, Lakeside Serial Rapist
you are not familiar with not one of the names of this black male predator's victims
they are nameless and forgotten.
i will hear George Floyds name annually for years to come.
and the police officers, D.A., law enforcement who were so helpful, kind, professional
you do not know their names.
so, this current narrative in media
it doesnt fit my life experiences.
and i am very proud of the fact, that over the years,
with Jesus, family, friends, and a whole lot of self help effort
i did not, do not, project on to the whole population of blacks
the evil action of the few.
-good time here to share, that in addition to being
ambushed, kidnapped at gunpoint, covered up and raped by a black male wearing a hoodie
i was also in a bank when it was robbed
and had a gun pointed at me
-the bank was arm-robbed by two black males.
blacks have. do. will. commit crimes.
i have no doubt there are some blacks, as well as people of every race,
that are unjustly arrested.
but there are those who are quite justly arrested also.
we need to balance the narrative.
my ambition is to
interrupt any/all narratives that project on to whole populations
the evil/corrupt behaviors of the some
we are for good cops, and against corrupt ones.
we are for blacks who are law abiding, and against blacks who commit crimes
we are for peaceful protests and against riots/looting
we are for the safety of our citizens
and against predators
we need to return to a narrative which speaks to CONTENT OF INDIVIDUAL CHARACTER
and leave the 'black' lives or 'blue' uniform
out of the equation.
evil does not have a color; good does not have a race
each individual responsible for their behavior
each individual responsible to judge others based on CONTENT of CHARACTER
even blacks who are currently committing crimes
seem empowered by a 'racism' pass, and pay no consequence for their criminal behavior
and even noble police who are legitimately doing their job
are having their authority usurped by unjust 'racism' or 'brutality' labels
let's correct the falsely skewed narrative toward truth:
both exist
blacks who commit crimes and should be arrested/held accountable
blacks who don't
both exist
noble law enforcement officers who serve and protect
corrupt law enforcement who should be fired/held accountable
the goal: do not demonize entire populations
or empower entire populations
but demonize criminal behavior
and empower noble behavior
i want to close with sharing the work/lessons of
Johanna Ray Vollhardt
and,
use it to explain, why I am reluctant to feed the 'black' lives matter narrative
and briefly, before sharing her work,
share, that when i was in middle school, there was good relations between whites/blacks
/not with whites/mexicans, but i will save that story
between blacks and whites it was good, until, the movie Roots came out.
now, how the movie landed on the hearts/minds of grown adults, i do not know
but how it landed on the immature, middle school minds of my black peers
i do know.
and suddenly i was under attack by blacks for the wrong doing hundreds of years ago by people i never even knew. entirely innocent, and attacked.
the movie was counterproductive if the intention was evolution/equality
we went from united to divided.
why?
i believe what Johanna Ray Vollhardt teaches is key
i sum it up here:
humans respond to aggression/violence/injustice in one of two ways:
1. altruistic/pro-social
2. self-centered/anti-social.
and what DETERMINES which way given humans respond has to do with
whether they see injustice as 'shared' or 'unique' to them
if you see injustice as 'shared'
you respond altruistically/pro-social
you fight the injustice itself; not people
if you see the injustice as 'unique' to you/your group
you respond in a selfish/ anti-social manner
when we say 'black' lives matter, this feeds a 'unique to us' narrative
and we do see division, aggression, riots, racism rise
but, when you learn about the holocaust, genocides around the world;
gay rights, the women's right to vote, elderly rights, etc. World War I, II
when you learn about violence against women
human trafficking
you realize you don't have the monopoly on injustice
you see that for all of time, across the globe
write now
there are oppressors/injustices/evil in many spheres
it is not unique to you/your group
freedom isnt free
and an ongoing effort by all good people
to fight evil forces
is part of our civic job and responsibility
generation
after
generation
after generation
amen.
posted by SHE @ 1:25 PM
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