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Catch (the micks!) in lies & arguments

 if you want to catch us in a lie; easy.

just listen in on our conversations after every. single. san. jose. city. council. 60 second. open. mic.

-how we vow to never attend another stupid, waste of time & energy city council open mic;  

 which ends up being a big fat lie...     

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if you want to catch us in an argument; not so easy.    unless, of course, we are driving on a freeway. 

my mind has a TOGGLE SWITCH when i am a passenger and my husband is driving. 

if i am looking out the window; the switch toggles to:  FATALITY RISKS EVERYWHERE; which i cannot seem to override..  so i sound kinda like, 

  "BRAKES!!  MY GOD..  PUMP YOUR BRAKES..  WARN EVERYONE BEHIND YOU!     

WATCH OUT OVER THERE!!      ARE YOU CONSCIOUSLY CHANGING LANES?   

WILL YOU PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE ROAD!!"

and even though my husband KNOWS, i am only responding to my own stress, (valid & phobic) and not criticizing him personally or his driving; he cannot seem to override that knowledge, and defaults to taking offense..

then our voices will rise; our attitudes take a nose dive..  and that's when i realize, you should never drive when you are angry, 

that will only result in:  "FATALITY AHEAD!  BRAKES!!  ARE YOU PAYING ATTENTION TO THE ROAD!?!"

what is SUCCESSFULLY saving our lives, our sanity, our marriage:

if, when my very sexy, remarkable, wonderful, amazing husband is driving, 

and i am a passenger, 

if I DO NOT LOOK OUT THE WINDOW, and instead, engage my mind in NYT word games, i do not even have to work at overriding valid or phobic concerns.

once my mind is engaged, i am having a great time! i LOVE these games, these puzzles, the challenges..

so, THIS IS WORKING!! i'm okay, for the most part on city streets, back roads..  but, upon entering a freeway, i just whip out my phone, 

click on my NYT app, 

engage. solve puzzles. play games.

I DO NOT LIFT MY EYES from the activity at hand, 

once i can tell, from the motion, we are exiting the freeway..  or i feel us pull into a parking lot and park.

i immediately shut off the phone,  and sometimes out loud; sometimes just to myself:

 "Thank You Jesus!    "Thank You Jesus!      Thank You Jesus...."

 and then fully engage in whatever we are doing..   where ever we are..

Hallelujah & Amen...

posted by SANDRA MICKANEN @ 11:08 AM